Venlet: Harden Your Heart
Read it all, including the embedded link.
And memorize this Eastwood quote cited by John:
Now remember, things look bad and it looks like you’re not gonna make it, then you gotta get mean. I mean plumb, mad-dog mean. ‘Cause if you lose your head and you give up, then you neither live nor win. That’s just the way it is.
That's just the way it is.